My husband forces me to do oral sex with him.
When all this started couple of years ago, I refused
to do that but he gets angry on me and not only
he separated his bed, he stop talking to me as well.
When I tried to confront him with this as “haram”
act, he challenges me to find any authenticate
narration in support of my argument which I failed
to find. All I was able to find oral sex as “makroh”
at worst and thing which is prohibited is to tastes
the discharge coming out. To confront this
argument, he started using condoms but did not
stop the practice. I had the argument once again
with him around a month ago and this time his
response was harsh, he said if I don’t want to
please me, he does not want to keep me. In other
words, not directly but he threaten me with
divorce. My hesitation with this act is more from
religious standing. I pray and fast and practice
Islam in my daily life.
I have read multiple boards on the issue but none
of them gives a clear answer. I am more confuse
then enlighten on the issue. Some of them talk
about morality and some of then talk from hygiene
perspective but no clear answer from Islamic point
of view. Please ease my situation and answer me in
black and white about the ruling on oral sex. In my
situation, should I seek the separation/divorce if
my husband keeps insisting me in engaging oral sex
or I am over stressing myself on an act which is
permissible between husband and wife?